!!!!!!!!!! How to approach girls in restaurants, cafés, bookstores, on the street, etc. !!!!!!!!!?
Question by Francis T: !!!!!!!!!! How to approach girls in restaurants, cafés, bookstores, on the street, etc. !!!!!!!!!?
I’m not exactly shy, but when I met a nice girl, I don’t find the right words to approach her. I feel uneasy and the hottie is up and away before I can talk to her. What can I do to seize the chance?
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Answer by lil_red_head_89
find something you have a common in. for example, the books she’s looking at, do you like those as well? it doesn’t have to be anything extremely witty and amazing, just a hi and a smile can get a girl to notice you. so please don’t try any of those corny pickup lines, it just screams ” desperate “. yea, just a smile and “hi”!
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Make casual conversation. Or simply get straight to the point, and get some confidence. The worst that can happen is, she’ll say no, or walk away. Life goes on right?
Just introduce our yourself. Plain and simple. If you see a book in her hand, talk about that and ask her to have coffee with you.
well personally i am a shy girl nd once wen i saw a guy who was cute we occasionally looked at each other nd smiled, then we looked at each other more nd more. well he nvr had the chance to talk to me bt do wut he did nd make the girl comfertable with u forst if u kno wut i mean
just go over and say hi I don’t usually do this and then but I wanted to introduce myself and then ask her out girls really don’t find it annoying or get mad when they are asked out what the worst that could happen anyways …she says no so just be more forward
Well, first off, I wouldn’t really approach anyone at a restaurant. Anyone that approaches me while I am eating is not cool. THumbs down for them.
Not saying I haven’t made eye contact with a cute girl than walked over and asked if anyone was sitting there, but that’s only under certain circumstances.
Bookstores are easier, but only slightly. The obvious opener is the talk about the fact that you have the same interest in books. “Ie. same genre, artist, etc.)
On the street is the easiest, but only under the right circumstances.
If your both waiting for the bus or riding the bus, talk about the damn bus. If you both are walking the same direction you may try to make conversation, but don’t be creepy. Don’t turn around to follow/walk with a girl. Don’t change what your doing to talk to her. Very creepy, very stalker/predatory. One cool trick that can work though is to chase her down with a pen in your hand and ask her if she dropped it.
So a few rules.
1. Look for NATURAL settings. (Like the bookstore or bus stop) Before you try to talk to a girl, think about what your reaction would be if some strange guy came up to talk to you in that setting. Remember, girls gotta worry about being robbed and worse, so if you approach in the wrong setting your at a major disadvantage.
2. Look and act your best, you only get one first impression.
3. Have a plan of what your gonna say.
4. And last but MOST IMPORTANT. MAKE EYE CONTACT FIRST. Before you say a word try to make eye contact, smile or something. Break the ice before you say anything. If she continues eye contact or smiles at you your good to talk to her in most cases. Its like asking if she is interested, in most cases.
Restaurants are tough because people are there to eat, but if she is near your table and not eating yet you can start by asking her for a recommendation on the menu or if you don’t want to end up with the frog leg soup give her a couple of options to choose from for her recommendation. From there make some small talk about other restaurants and their food. If you get good responses guide the conversation to other topics. Ask her about her job and such. Don’t get too specific like “where do you work” or “where do you live” she may put her guard up. Cafes are easier because they are more casual but the line of conversation may be along the same lines. Book stores are easier if you are a little knowledgeable about some authors and their works. Stay out of the history section not very many women there. Don’t forget you bssics. Dress well, smell good, be well groomed. You can make contact by briefly touching a shoulder or elbow, in conjunction with a laugh usually. If she isn’t responding in the a receptive manor, don’t be a pest. Move on. Meeting women in all about being rejected, it’s just part of it. If she gets up to leave while you’re still there give her a salutation, “Bye, have a good day (evening)” You may see her again and you want the last impression to be a good one. Remember attractive women are constantly being approached by trolls and many of them are a little aloof at first. But on the 2nd or 3rd meeting they may begin to warm up.